I mailed my Dad’s Father’s Day card, which included my letter to him asking him to adopt me back, today.
Now I’m nervous, but it probably won’t even get to him for like a week or two. I’m contemplating asking him to let me know when it arrives before he opens it. I wanted tracking, but it was an extra £5, so I couldn’t afford it.
In other news:
- I’ve had 3 of 6 counselling sessions with an adoption-trained counsellor. This is to meet the requirement for adoption-specific counselling to ask for my adoption file to be unsealed and given to me. I still have to come up with a good reason to want it. Any suggestions welcome.
- I had an interview at a coffee shop near my house. I hear back about it on Monday. I also have another interview on the 6th. As nice as the coffee shop people were, I hope I get the one I interview for on the 6th. It pays better, and it’s office-based.
- Which is especially good, because we had our financial low the other day. We ran out of food/money and had to visit the food bank. The people were nice, thankfully, and now we have some food. Yay.
- I may, or may not, have my first breastfeeding counsellor client. I’m very happy I’ve had an enquiry, even if it doesn’t pan out. If it doesn’t pan out, that means she got the help she needs without me, and I’ll be glad for that.
- I think that’s it.
- Oh, yes, my mother finally responded to my asking if she’d ever want to visit me. She said she would, so, woot. Hopefully by next year (I’d love to have her visit over the Paschal Triduum) we’ll actually be living in a place that can host visitors.
- Dom might be pregnant. He refuses to have any hope, but I can’t help but be cautiously optimistic. He’s gonna go to the crisis pregnancy centre for a test in a couple weeks if nothing changes.
- That’s really it, I think, lol.
🙂
29 May 2014
Cate
A Family of My Own 
3 responses to “Small Update”
eagoodlife
May 29th, 2014 at 23:22
You have to have a reason to get information that belongs to you?? It is your right but I guess the counsellor wouldn’t like to hear that! I guess you’re expected to play the grateful adoptee in this situation? You could say you need it for your medical history for your children. Or that you need to trace your ancestry for your identity. Good luck!
Cate
May 30th, 2014 at 07:24
It’s not the counsellor that needs the reason – she’s British and a bit appalled America makes you go through this – it’s the court. I have to ask the judge to unseal my file. The reason I need a really good reason is because I’ve already met and know my family – I’m actually planning on having my mom, dad, and possibly one or two other family members write a letter of support, in the hopes that will sway the judge. Why should he deny my request when my own family wants me to have it?
But… you never know.
eagoodlife
May 30th, 2014 at 09:21
Yes it is appalling and a very long running injustice. Suggest you find others from the State you were born/adopted in and ask their advice. You’d be amazed at what is done sometimes which makes no sense to us but seems to make sense to those in control of the information. I’m only an innocent bystander, being an Aussie adoptee.